It has taken me some time to think about just what I want to write here. Wanting to honor the families right to privacy, yet share the magic that was Deb. I was lucky enough to have known Deb... if only for a short time... and witness just how fun and outgoing she was.
Even in the end of her precious life... she had a strength, determination and love that could be rivaled by no-one. She litterally shone!
Deb had 3 types of cancer. She had been fighting this fight for 5 years. The mum to 6 beautiful kids both biological and not... she had a zest for life. The story of how I met Deb & Russell was somewhat of a fluke. A very dear friend just happened to be sitting with Deb in hospital, 3 weeks before her wedding when I messaged. She told me that she was visiting her 'aunt' in hospital... to which I replied 'oh... I hope she's ok'. Her reply broke my heart. 'No... she's dying'. She then proceeded to tell me that she was planning her wedding... to the love of her life and partner of 18 years. I instinctively asked if they had a photographer... and if not... I would do it for free. I just knew at that point I needed to capture these memories for them... for Deb's family. To be able to treasure forever.
I did not realise at this point just how hard this would be!
We tried organizing a family shoot the week before the wedding. Deb's doctors had told her that she wouldn't make it to the wedding... but she was absolutely determined to marry the love of her life... and nothing was stopping her!
We finally managed to organise at least a meet up. The hospital was being renovated, not all the kids could get there and the weather was horribly cold! But I finally got to meet Deb & Russell... and boy did they make an impact. Never having seen two people look at each other the way these two did... it kind of restored my faith in humanity and the belief in love. Only a few 'get to know me' photos later and a good long chat that took us past Deb's dinner time... I felt I could truy capture their wedding in the way that they deserved.
Fast forward a week. Me freaking out that I wouldn't do them justice. That I would somehow stuff up and ruin it. Scared yet excited to be a part of something so tragic and yet so magical. The day arrived!
Deb had been slowly getting worse and the doctors were sending her home to live the rest of her days with her soon to be husband and kids. Never have I seen a determination this strong. She WAS marrying Russell... and she was going to be a princess for the day!
The day was beautiful. Magical. Powerful. We managed to capture some life changing memories... and I know that being a part of this beautiful day has certainly changed my life forever. We had some restrictions because of Deb's weakened state... but we made it work so we could have those memories for her family to treasure.
I was so lucky that Sandra from Moffatt Photography stepped up and helped me capture the ceremony and a few shots afterwards. She helped calm my nerves and ensure we got some beautiful photographs too.
The night was magical and Deb got to go home with her family. Unfortunately... in her worsening condition... Deb lost her battle with Cancer only 6 short days later in hospice care. I will never forget the moment I was told. Instant tears and heartbreak. And I tear again as I write this. Gone too soon... from something so horrible. My heart aches!
Deb certainly touched me. And I know she will forever live on in the hearts of those around her. She was... is... and always will be... a beautiful soul.
The greatest sadness is that she left behind a new husband and 6 kids. The grief they must feel breaks my heart... and the pressure on Russell to now take all responsibility for his family... while grieving the loss of his beautiful wife.
My love goes out to Russell and the kids. I feel so honored to have been a part of this magical time and so thankful I could give you the gift of these memories.
And in order to do my little bit to help... PLEASE... donate to their Go Fund Me. This beautiful family deserves to have the time to grieve without the financial burdens that come with losing a loved one. Even $5 helps!
To Deb... I know you are watching over everyone. A cheeky little smile. Be happy now you are cancer free. And always watch over your beautiful family. Keep shining <3
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2 Comments
Oct 10, 2018, 4:49:22 PM
Claire Oliver - Sorry I only just saw this Karen! It was my absolute pleasure to be able to capture this special time for them. They are truly beautiful souls and Deb will be truly missed <3
Jul 20, 2018, 4:47:50 PM
Karen Lockie - I cannot thank you enough for your kindness that you have shown to Deb & Russel and also the rest of the family. You have given some of the most beautiful photo`s that truly captured the heart and soul of Deb & Russel. Your kindness will never be forgotten. Deb is my niece and I am so proud of her. You made her wedding day so extra special and those photo`s are a testimony to your talent. Thank You so very much.